Marriage Maintenance Assessment
Answer each question on a scale from 0-10. (0 = worst, 10 = best)
You should have two answers for each question….one for how you feel and one for how you think your spouse feels.
______ ______I am doing well in my personal spiritual life.
______ ______I am encouraged by our spiritual life together.
______ ______My spouse knows when I am struggling spiritually and with what I am struggling with spiritually.
______ ______I know how to specifically pray for my spouse.
______ ______I regularly pray for my spouse and our family.
______ ______We regularly pray and read scripture together.
______ ______We regularly talk about the bible, spiritual things, and have ‘gospel conversations.’
______ ______I am satisfied with our involvement in the church.
______ ______My spouse and I participate in ministry together (pursuing the lost, serving the needy, and leading in the church).
______ ______Our family regularly participates in family worship.
______ ______Our marriage is what I hoped for.
______ ______I feel loved and cared for in our marriage.
______ ______I feel respected by my spouse.
______ ______I often times harbor ager towards my spouse.
______ ______I feel like my spouse hears me.
______ ______I feel like we communicate well.
______ ______I speak well of my spouse around others.
______ ______I enjoy time with my spouse.
______ ______I feel like we handle conflict well.
______ ______I feel like our marriage is thriving.
______ ______I am fulfilled by our sex life.
______ ______My spouse and I have sex enough.
______ ______I feel like intimacy is a priority in our relationship.
______ ______I am attracted to my spouse.
______ ______I oftentimes struggle with lust.
______ ______I do a good job of physically pursing my spouse.
______ ______I put my spouse’s physical needs in front of my own.
______ ______My spouse and I do a good job of dating one another.
______ ______I am satisfied with how often we go on dates/ have ‘us’ time.
______ ______We help each other pursue healthy lifestyles (exercise, eating, and habits).
______ ______I am comfortable with our financial situation/ we handle our finances well.
______ ______I enjoy the way we work together in parenting/We are on the same page when it comes to parenting our children.
______ ______My spouse often stresses me out.
______ ______I am cool with the way things operate around the house.
______ ______I am satisfied with the established family roles.
______ ______I am willing to work on my marriage/I am willing to do whatever it takes for my spouse to thrive.